Its a simple but sometimes a difficult phrase to hear or to say. It is exactly the words people used to describe my new relationship after becoming a Widower. The tone can be both positive and negative and I’ve experienced both.
After losing a partner the last thing on your mind is to find another as soon as possible but, your experience, attitude and philosophy on life will dictate what form this “moving on” will take, whether you like it or not.
For me it was meeting someone I felt an instant connection to at a business event just nine months after losing my husband. It was unplanned and very much unexpected and, I am sure at the time I would have said unwanted.
Even after learning more about my Widower status and hearing the scars left by losing a loved one my partner decided to stick around. he saw past the hurt and bravado and cactus like exterior to the soft and gentle person inside who loves to love and be loved.
Four years on from that fateful day we were able to declare our love for each other publicly in front of our friends and family, many of whom had met and known my late husband as I married my New Husband. It was a wonderful day shared with friends who really have been there through our tough times and are here now to share our good times.
I would like to say the future is bright but, none of us really know that we can only hope that it is the case. One thing I do know though is that I am hopeful for the future and proud of my Friends, Family and Partner who I am sure will be with me every step of the way.